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Newsletter Vol. # 22 That is how I see it!

Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter

What you'll find in this weeks newsletter: What's Happening to the Family; take the political election quiz and see which party you align with the most; goals, purpose, self-fulfillment and Viktor Frankl; a dicey Craig's List Ad; just what are the Benefits of Walking? Quiz #3; what might help prevent Prostate Cancer? Reader Response.

What's Happening to the Family?

Society is changing! The family - husband, wife, and children - as the primary cog in the structure of society is on the decline. In its place are individuals who are choosing to live without a partner. The institution of marriage has been under fire for a while now with divorce statistics way up and marriages down.

According to Joel Kotkin, The Rise of Post-Familialism: Humanity's Future? There are several important economic forces behind the decline in the desire to find a spouse and have children. Forces such as a "Consumption based economy and the demand it places on the workers, particularly woman. In Singapore, woman work on the average of 53 hours a week. Of course they are not going to have children, they don't have time" says demographer Wolfgang Lutz.

The decision to not have children can perhaps be explained by society's growing lack of interest in formalized religion with its emphasis on having large families to support their religion. There seems to be a greater preference in our younger population to be unattached, to have friends and "friends with benefits" rather than a permanent partner (and all the drama that goes with that). However, I believe most people would like a permanent partner but they are sceptical and afraid they will "get hurt again" and so choose to live alone.
      "70 percent of woman living in Washington do not live with children
      and by 2030 it is estimated one-third of Japanese males under the age of
      50 will have never married."  (MacLean's, December 2013)
Apparently, if the trend continues, it is better to have a life filled with personal activities and "friends" rather than a spouse and children.

In Canada, the institution of marriage is declining and couples without children outnumber couples with children. Canadians, as well as inhabitants of other wealthy countries, are avoiding marriage and children for a life with greater personal freedom.

Is this Good - Bad? How about for our country? You be the judge
Let me know what you think.

Canada Election Quiz

A fun quiz in which the outcome is which Political Party your answers most align with:

Viktor Frankl Man's Search for Meaning

Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life: to life he can only respond by being responsible. 

What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs' is not the discharge of tension at any cost. but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.

This quote reminds me that in my work I quite often find myself dealing with people who have made it their life's work to take care of and/or "Please Others." However, they get to a point when the "business" of life slows down (kids move out, retirement) and that "others" behaviour is no longer possible or welcomed. Now they need to deal with their own wants/needs/feelings and they are lost. What we often end up talking about in our sessions are the need for meaningful goals that give purpose to ones life, and activities that are self-fulfilling to the individual.

AN ACTUAL CRAIG'S LIST AD   (an American version)

To the Guy Who Tried to Mug Me in Downtown Savannah last night.
I was the guy wearing the black Burberry jacket that you demanded that I hand over, shortly after you pulled the knife on me and my girlfriend, threatening our lives. You also asked for my girlfriend's purse and earrings. I can only hope that you somehow come across this rather important message.

First, I'd like to apologize for your embarrassment; I didn't expect you to actually crap in your pants when I drew my pistol after you took my jacket. The evening was not that cold, and I was wearing the jacket for a reason. My girlfriend had just bought me that Kimber Model 1911 .45 ACP pistol for my birthday, and we had picked up a shoulder holster for it that very evening. Obviously you agree that it is a very intimidating weapon when pointed at your head ... isn't it?

I know it probably wasn't fun walking back to wherever you'd come from with that brown sludge in your pants. I'm sure it was even worse walking bare-footed since I made you leave your shoes, cell phone, and wallet with me. [That prevented you from calling or running to your buddies to come help mug us again].

After I called your mother or "Momma" as you had her listed in your cell, I explained the entire episode of what you'd done. Then I went and filled up my gas tank as well as those of four other people in the gas station, -- on your credit card. The guy with the big motor home took 150 gallons and was extremely grateful!

I gave your shoes to a homeless guy outside Vinnie Van Go Go's, along with all the cash in your wallet. [That made his day!]

I then threw your wallet into the big pink "pimp mobile" that was parked at the curb .... after I broke the windshield and side window and keyed the entire driver's side of the car.

Later, I called a bunch of phone sex numbers from your cell phone. Ma Bell just now shut down the line, although I only used the phone for a little over a day now, so what 's going on with that? Earlier, I managed to get in two threatening phone calls to the DA's office and one to the FBI, while mentioning President Obama as my possible target. The FBI guy seemed really intense and we had a nice long chat (I guess while he traced your number etc.).

In a way, perhaps I should apologize for not killing you ... but I feel this type of retribution is a far more appropriate punishment for your threatened crime. I wish you well as you try to sort through some of these rather immediate pressing issues, and can only hope that you have the opportunity to reflect upon, and perhaps reconsider, the career path you've chosen to pursue in life. Remember, next time you might not be so lucky. Have a good day!

The Benefits Of Walking

The heart and stroke foundation says research has shown that just 30 To 60 minutes a day of brisk walking can help you maintain a healthy weight, reduce high blood pressure, lower elevated cholesterol, and cut your risk of heart disease. It can also provide stress relief, help you feel more energetic, improve your mood and help you sleep better.

A study of the effects of walking on older post-menopausal women, conducted at the University of Manitoba, found a 4.5 per cent decrease in total cholesterol levels for participants who walked at a brisk pace for 60 minutes a day. That's the equivalent of a 10 per cent reduction in the risk of heart disease.

The Osteoporosis Society of Canada reports that walking, which is a weight-bearing exercise, can help you maintain bone mass. A spokesperson for the society says 30 minutes a day, even done in shorter segments throughout the day, can make a difference.

For anyone with type II diabetes, the Canadian Diabetes Association recommends physical activity to help you manage the disease and feel better. Start with as little as 5 to 10 minutes a day of brisk walking and work towards the association's recommended goal of at least 150 minutes of aerobic exercise a week.
                                                                                              Judy Brandow

The Quiz 3

In humans, polyphagia is an excessive desire to do what?

What was the first successfully transplanted internal organ in a human?

Founded in 1906 in Rochester, N.Y., the Haloid Photographic Co. changed its name to what in 1961?

Which two countries share the longest uninterrupted land border in the world?

Developed in 1964 by Earnshaw Cook, sabermetrics are a specialized measurement of statistics used for which sport?

As either a solo artist or part of a group, who is the only musician to have a No. 1 single on a Billboard chart in each of the past six decades?

What name is shared by both a Roman philosopher and a North American indigenous group?

What worldwide company started off as a one-off show, produced in 1981 and known as les Echassiers de Baie-Saint-Paul?

Which author invented the word "nerd"?

Quiz questions and answers came from MacLean's magazine and put together by Terrance Belazo. For answers see below.

Prostate Cancer Prevention

Clients who savour a sip of the grape will toast this news:
A glass of red wine a day may keep prostate cancer at bay.

When the investigators analyzed the drinking habits of two groups of men-753 prostate cancer patients and 703 similar, healthy individuals-they determined that participants who consumed four or more four-oz. glasses of red wine a week were 50 per cent less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer than non-drinkers. Red wine may provide even more powerful protection against the most aggressive forms of prostate cancer: the incidence of these more deadly cancers was 60% lower in men who consumed four glasses per week. (International Journal of Cancer)

Answers to the Quiz

Eat; Kidney; Xerox; Russia and Kazakhstan; Baseball; Cher; Seneca; Cirque du Soleil; Dr. Seus

Reader Response

Why is it that there is always someone who does a survey knows so much better than the system itself?   Yes we do have a problem with the services we receive medically, but it's not always the fault of the providers. My feeling is that in Canada we are so top heavy with administrators who make the decisions that control everything medical that it ties the system up. They are over compensated and they are the ones that point fingers and cover their butts when something goes wrong. There was a Dr who brought in a machine that would detect cataracts in diabetics. The unit was never operated because the hospital refused to spend the money to send tech's to learn how to run the unit at the Winnipeg clinic. It was sent back to the states and the Dr. lost a great deal of his own money.         Ray

Middle of Aug.-guess I better get the roses planted (life is moving too fast).

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