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Newsletter Vol. # 39 That's how I see it!

Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter.

What you will find in this weeks newsletter: really, I am in better shape as a married male--Marriage as a Health Aide; what to do in the case of an emergency; I love my bread-So What's the Matter With Wheat? APA Survey on Stress; and Reader Response.

Marriage as a Health Aide

Men experience an improvement in their health after they get married, women do not experience the same health benefits.

Corrine Reczek, professor at the University of Cincinnati calls this phenomena "health work." It's the work that women do to make their men healthier: they cook meals and they encourage exercise. More often, they make the medical appointments, they promote good sleep, and he discourage drinking and smoking. Husbands on the other hand don't try to make their wives as healthy. So there is a dynamic going on in marriage that is un-equal.

29,000 Canadians took the Symptom Profiler test, a self-evaluation tool. Results showed that married men reported the fewest symptoms compared to all other males, married women were no better off then divorced or widowed females. It seems that for women it's not the fact of being married that affects their well-being but rather the quality of the relationship.

People who are in poor marriages where they're fighting all the time are probably no better off than being single, and maybe worse off, says Linda Waite, a sociology professor at the University of Chicago. A bad marriage harms well-being in two ways: it creates stress, which can "slow wound healing" and "affect immune function." A bad marriage doesn't allow you to recover from the other stresses you face, like work.

Happily married women were more likely to be alive 15 years later then unhappily married women. But there was no difference between unhappily married women and non-married women. The opposite was true for men: unhappy husbands were still better off then singles.
                                                                          Cathy Gulli. Macleans

Men have it so much better than women in marriage-that something I never realized. Perhaps that's why so many more women today are leaving the marriage home. Doesn't matter which sex is the happiest or unhappiest, as a society we are really not staying married, divorce is approaching 50% depending on which survey you read. There are a great many unhappy and angry children in society today because their parents can't figure out how to be happy in their relationship.

Golf's a hard game to figure. One day you'll go out and slice it and shank it, hit into all the traps and miss every green. The next day you go out and for no reason at all you really stink.

What To Do In Case Of Emergency!

Advice learned as a result of hurricane Katrina (which hit the Cayman Islands in 2003-where our son lives) from Neil Strausse author of Emergency: This Book Will Save Your Life!

If you're in the city during an emergency, you should have two plans: one to
stay at home and one to evacuate if your home is in danger. So at the minimum, you should store a week's worth of non-perishable food and water, which is a gallon a day per person. To stay warm, have a kerosene
heater or a wood-burning fireplace, plus enough fuel to get you through seven days.
As for evacuating, have a plan that includes a safe place to go, a rally point for family members who are elsewhere, and a bag ready to grab with copies of important documents and a few days of survival supplies plus some cash. Finally, always keep your car tank above the half-full line. You may not be able to get gas when you need it.

Golfers who try to make everything perfect before taking the shot rarely make a perfect shot.

So, What's The Matter With Wheat?

Oh boy, here we go again, something that is a staple in our diet and we thought it was good for us. Dr. William Davis, a preventative cardiologist, argues in his new book Wheat Belly that wheat is bad for your health, so bad that it should carry a Surgeon Generals warning. Here is what he has to say;

The plant has been hybridized and crossbred to make it resistant to drought and fungi, and to vastly increased yields per acre. We have created what I call Frankengrains over the last 50 years, using some pretty extreme techniques, and their safety for human consumption has never been tested or even question.

The research that indicates whole grains are healthy is all conducted the same way: white flour is replaced with whole-wheat flour, which is better for you. But taking something bad and replacing it with something less bad is not the same as research that directly compares what happens to health and weight when you eliminate wheat altogether. There's a presumption that consuming a whole bunch of less bad things must be good for you, and that's the flawed logic. An analogy would be to say that filtered cigarettes are less bad for you than unfiltered cigarettes, and therefore, a whole bunch of filtered cigarettes is good for you. It makes no sense. But that is the rationale for increasing our consumption of whole grains, and that combined with the changes in wheat itself is a recipe for creating a lot of fat and unhealthy people.

Two slices of whole wheat bread increases blood sugar to a higher level than a candy bar does. And then, after about two hours, your blood sugar plunges and you get shaky, your brain feels foggy, you're hungry. This cycle of highs and lows just keeps going on throughout the day, so you're constantly feeling hungry and constantly eating. If you eliminate wheat from your diet, you're no longer hungry between meals.

Dr. Davis main goal seems to be to inform the general public to eat less and that farmers grow less- wheat. He challenges the previous notion that "cutting out fat and eating whole grains will make you healthy." He says that is not only wrong but also destructive.
                                                                               (Kate Fillion, Maclean's)

A 'gimme'
can best be defined as an agreement between two golfers ...neither of whom can putt very well.

A P A Survey On Stress

People who perceive a great deal of stress in their lives are more likely to report specific ailments and symptoms such as:
     -59 percent reported feeling nervous or sad
     -51 percent reported symptoms of fatigue
     -56 percent reported inability to sleep or sleeping too much
     -55 percent reported lack of interest, motivation or energy
     -46 percent reported headaches
     -48 percent reported muscular tension
     -32 percent reported frequent upset stomach or indigestion
     -37 percent reported change in appetite
     -29 percent reported feeling faint or dizzy
     -26 percent reported tightness in chest
     -23 percent reported change in sex drive

So exactly what is it that is stressing people out? Here are the leading sources of stress:
     -59 percent said money
     -59 percent said work
     -53 percent said health problems affect being parents or other family members
     -50 percent said health concerns
     -50 percent said nightly news or state of the world today
     -48 percent said health of immediate family (spouse, partner or children)
     -41 percent said children

Everybody experiences stress, the key is how effectively people deal with and manage stress. People who turn to comfort food, smoking, alcohol or drugs are starting a vicious circle. Their attempts to reduce stress can actually lead to health problems that result in increased stress.

It is interesting, and a plug for the work I do as an E A P therapist, that the APA survey found that nearly 20 percent of those most concerned about stress were seeing a mental health professional and were getting help to get on track and to relieve some of their stress.

*APA (American Psychological Association)
*EAP (Employee Assistance Program)

An interesting thing about Golf is that no matter how badly you play; it is always possible to get worse.

Reader Response

The two fellows that commented on the family traditions and country they came from was GREAT. I could not find the words to say what they did. My father took a lifetime to learn English but never missed a vote and memory from back home. This is what we expect from new immigrants, peace and open arms. "That's when the fight started" --those jokes are great!

Well it feels like spring is just around the corner-hence the golf humour-however I am not cancelling our trip to Cayman (March 31), I have this feeling we haven't seen the last of the cold weather.

Back doing some music with my old friends at "bluelight". Those guys are incredible musicians and make Wednesdays a pleasure.

Have a great week!