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Newsletter Vol. # 46 That's how I see it!

Newsletter Vol. # 46 That's how I see it!

 Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter.

What you will find in this week's newsletter:
-Residential School Experiment-more than a failure;
-Why Exercising Outdoors Is Good For Your Longevity;
-How about some advice on Whom Not To Marry!
-My favourite jokes are those that finish with the line And then the fight started....
-The answer to the age-old question, Why Do I Keep Picking Losers?
-Lots of input in Reader Response.
             Now don't get too excited about newsletter #46.

In reference to Wellness, I feel like "Mickey Rooney" married eight times. I know what to do and how to do it, but how do I keep it interesting?

Justice Murray Sinclair in his article, Education Cause And Solution, helps us to understand the impact that Residential schools had/has on the survivors of an experiment gone horribly wrong.

Residential schools have now been closed for at least one generation. In fact, they had pretty much closed by the 1980s, but the legacy of those schools is very much alive.

It lives on in the daily experiences of the survivors in this country. It lives on in their attitudes about themselves and in the opportunities that are and are not open to them.

It lives on in their children who do not know their language, or their culture, and who were denied the chance to gain a sense of self-respect from schools that constantly portrayed their people as savages, heathens, uncivilized, treacherous, sneaky, dishonest, thieving, and irrelevant.

A liaison in the lives of aboriginal parents who spend years living in institutions where they would never have learned to parent properly, denied the chance to observe and receive positive parenting from their own parents, or to participate in any kind of normal family life.

And it lives on in the lives of the children and grandchildren of those parents.

A great accumulation of damage has been done to aboriginal cultures, languages, families and communities by those residential schools.
Sinclair makes the case that although education created the problem; it can now be part of the solution.

It is precisely because education was the primary tool of oppression of Aboriginal people, and mis-education of all Canadians, that we have concluded that education holds the key to re-conciliation.

It is our view that, in broad terms, education has brought us to the current state of poor relations between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal peoples in this country, but education holds the key to making things better.

We expect too much from the medical system and too little from ourselves.

Why Exercising Outdoors is Good For Your Longevity

If you're determined to get into shape and make exercise a part of your longevity plan, why not take it outside? Increasingly, the effect of nature on our frame of mind and overall health is being investigated. For conditions ranging from obesity to schizophrenia and heart disease, promising data suggests there are significant benefits (including promoting a longer life) to being in fresh air and the wide open.

Benefits of being outdoors: A 2011 review of 38 different research projects, published in the Scandinavian Journal of Public Health, found that people suffering from many different physical and mental problems improved with some form of "nature-assisted therapy", probably because natural environments tend to promote relaxation. For example, patients with congestive heart failure showed significantly improved heart rate and mood scores after gardening programs. Weight loss was greater among obese subjects undergoing an outdoor exercise program, and subjects suffering a variety of diseases - including breast cancer and dementia - reported improved mental focus after their nature program. A reduction in anxiety, anger and depression were common findings.

Move it outside or inside? Researchers at the University of Exeter in the United Kingdom set out to answer the specific question of whether exercising in an outdoor, natural environment would be better for a person's health and well-being than doing the same activity indoors.

Their review, published in Environmental Science and Technology in 2011, analyzed 11 different trials comparing the effects of exercising outdoors and indoors. A total of 833 adults were involved.

In all of the studies, participants were surveyed about their mood and energy level after a single episode of walking or running indoors, and then again after doing the same activity outdoors on a separate occasion.

What they found: Overall, exercising outdoors was associated with feeling more revitalized, more energetic, and less tense, angry or depressed, than after their indoor activity. In one of the trials, subjects reported that they felt less fatigued after exercising outside. In addition, most of the participants said they felt more satisfied, and had greater enjoyment outdoors. Perhaps most significantly, the majority of subjects also said they were more likely to stick with the outdoor activity in the future.

 Neurotic: someone who builds castles in the sky

Psychotic: someone who Lives in those castles

Psychotherapist: one who collects the rent

Ladies - Who You Should Not Marry!

Advice from the "Is this one a keeper file?"

- You can be deeply in love with someone to whom you cannot be successfully married
- Never marry a man who cannot hold down a job
- Never marry a man who has no friends

Father Pat Connor from his book, "Whom Not To Marry: Time-Tested Advice From A Higher Authority":

- Never marry a man who is more affectionate in public than in private
- Never marry a man who notices all your faults but never any of his own
- Never marry a man whose first wife had to sue for child support
- Never marry a man whom your children don't like

Father Pat advises woman to:
- Take at least a year between the engagement and the wedding (to find out more about the guy) and ask lots of questions during that year
- Observe - Has your love grown since you became serious about one another?
- Do you see in this person the qualities you want in your children?
- Do you love each other with the same equal intensity and are you sure your love is not one-sided?
Even though Father Pat is 81, a priest and never married, he is still credible. I believe you don't have to have the experience of being hit by a Mack truck to know it hurts. Maybe just seeing enough accidents will do it for you.

 My wife was standing nude, looking in the bedroom mirror.

She was not happy with what she saw and said to me,

"I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you
to pay me a compliment.'

I replied, "Your eyesight's darn near perfect."

And then the fight started...

Is It Me?

In my practice I keep getting asked:

     "Is it me? Why then do I keep picking losers?" my response often is, "Yah, it's probably you."

It's no accident that individuals keep having the same relationship with different people. They don't understand that they are attracted to the same kinds of people over and over again. People who become their friends and lovers exhibit psychological profiles that have them eliciting behaviours that are consistently similar. Why do the same kinds of people get chosen repeatedly?

It doesn't take long to see that Jane is so self-defacing that she actually resists normal friendships, gravitating towards males who would be considered "Takers". Peter has been cheated on by a string of females. Even his friends have commented that he falls for woman who reminds him of his mother - apparently a promiscuous woman.
A person's level of self-esteem and what they have witnessed - their role models - can influence greatly the partner they choose in their adult life.

Two very special pieces here: the one about saying NO and meaning it and all the related mythical and real stuff that goes with that and #2 The Improved Communication piece - this is so-o-o-o important and so often not followed.                                      Jake

Dan your comments on "saying no" is right on the mark. We have experienced the effect of saying no as we raised our children and even more so as we observe our grandchildren being raised. Today there are many more " I want things" and thus more occasions when no is the appropriate response.                  John & Mary

I think your newsletter is terrific.  As to your lack of reader response, I am not sure why.   "Silence gives consent."
Every article has a point and they are all worth repeating. The little girl and the atheist--too cute for words.
The issue of welfare is a thorny one.  I do like the idea of the guaranteed annual income, an experiment tried in Dauphin area some years ago. It is worth examining. It is quite true that government programs get bogged down and invariably the loopholes, etc., become the earmarks of the system and it does not function as intended.  As we know all too well, education is the key.
Anyway, I appreciated your compilation and look forward to those wise and encouraging words. Thanks again.                                                                                                           Ed

 A big thanks you to those who read and to those who respond to this newsletter. I sincerely hope you find something worthwhile in every newsletter.

Take care, have a great week!