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Midweek #7

Finding Balance...

For more than four decades I have worked with clients to help them solve there 'living' issues and to encourage them to take better care of themselves. Time in therapy has often been reduced by an on-target concept, such as those that fill the pages of this book-Finding Balance....

These concepts help 'cut to the chase' and invite understanding and insight with a minimum of verbiage.

Finding Balance (143 pages of stories/concepts) was originally written for people in the helping professions (educators, nurses and medical personal, social workers, counsellors, psychologists) but after 6 reprints I have rewritten it for all--It seems people have similar issues no matter who they are or what their occupation.

What people are saying about Finding Balance:

"After reading your book, I now realize how much of my life I have been missing. I will become more aware and make a better life. I will read the book again, page by page, then I will read it again."

" 'I can have fun on a school night!' is written for everyone who feels too busy or too weighted by life's demands. Dan has a marvellous way of putting 'life' into perspective and encouraging readers to regain balance and to remember what's important. This is a book I want the people I care most about to read"

"It is hard to look after yourself...but your (Dan) little "pearls" are a reminder about what is really important."

"Reading your book has helped me to redefine what is important in my life and I have begun to make the changes to be healthier and happier."

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Today a Choice, Tomorrow a Lifestyle

Behaviour, or what we actually do, comes from the ability and the right to make a choice. We can choose to work out or not work out. I can phone somebody that I need to phone or chose not to phone them. Pay bills or not pay bills. None of this is extremely profound, but it is interesting, particularly if we understand that many people don't feel they have the ability, right, or opportunity to make choices. Even if I don't consciously use my power and right to choose, I am still choosing.

                       To choose to do nothing is still a choice.

I've discovered that if I don't make a conscious choice to do or not do something in three consecutive days - if I just let it go, or if I procrastinate in making a choice - I am, in effect, still making a choice for a different kind of lifestyle. Can I choose not to go for a walk today? Sure, it's a choice, but it's not a lifestyle change. My lifestyle can still include walking. The second day, can I choose not to go walking? Yes, because I still haven't taken walking out of my lifestyle. However, if on the third day I choose not to go walking, I have made a commitment, a definite move into the area of changing a lifestyle.

So, do we want the choice of not working out on a certain day or eating a piece of chocolate cake every once in a while or just relaxing and not driving ourselves so hard on certain days? Yes! But I warn you ... be careful what you choose, because as innocent, pleasant or necessary as it may seem, before you know it, in just three days, it can become a permanent lifestyle change.

It is also important for you to remember that when making changes, what you start doing is more important than what you stop doing.

                  Remember - three consecutive days begins a new lifestyle habit.