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Newsletter Vol. #73 Thats how I see it!

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Wellness is a lifestyle approach that pursues advanced states of physical
and psychological well-being. Wellness is not just a condition; it is a
philosophy of life. Wellness is based on a strong sense of responsibility
for your own health. We11ness encompasses the body, mind and spiritua1
aspects of your entire existence. A Wellness lifestyle is an art form
that requires constant attention and a very high level of commitment to
it. A healthy lifestyle is shaped and adjusted over time, is based on
experience, on new knowledge and on changing conditions and it
dramatically enhances the possibility for a good and challenging
existence. Wellness always entails displays of personal excellence in
such areas as fitness, time and stress management, consciously decided
upon healthy choices, self-nurturing, high self esteem and balance.
A Wellness lifestyle constantly invites never-ending curiosity about your
purpose, values and meaning of life. As well, there is strong evidence in
support of We11ness princip1es, and you must make your own way in the
shape and the approach to Wellness that best fits your unique
circumstances and resources.

The most popular model of We11ness and the one espoused by the National Wellness Institute has six dimensions-  physical, intellectual, spiritual, social, emotional and occupational. The hub around which these dimensions gather is self- responsibility. We are responsible for our health, we are responsible for Wellness, and we are responsible if we have a great life or a miserable life. It seems that life can invite us to feel bad, to feel sad, to be angry, but we in essence do not need to pick up the invitations that 1ife
confronts us with. It seems true that life does serve up unexpected curve
balls, and we are either controlled by these events in our life or we have
a plan, a health plan, a Wellness plan, a plan that holds us responsible
for seeing that our health and Wellness is protected.

If we live a Wellness lifestyle, the chances are much higher for responding "yes" to the question, "Are you feeling great and having any fun yet?"


There are people we meet in our lives that have a profound influence on us. Sandy was such an influence, she radiated love, and she was my dog.

I came across this piece of writing the other day and once again felt that profound sense of loss one feels when a special friend is lost to us.

Sandy, you died today. You were the gentlest soul I have ever known. You were patient with the grandchildren, yet almost aggressive when others of your kind when they encroached on your turf. I suppose this old aggression came from your earlier time on the streets-before us.

Your eyes shone love! You were obedient but certainly had a mind of your own, bordering on quiet rebellion that made me laugh. You never failed to make my day a better one with your "wagging tail" and I swear you knew how to smile with your mouth and eyes.

I think you knew you had a good thing going on Elm Street. You never ran away just  wandered away to explore, but never far and you always came back when called. You were my friend, the great cuddler, even though you sometimes smelled. You took me back to my youth and my love of dogs. I will miss you terribly! Thank you for your gift of love these last 14 years. Goodbye my girl, goodbye Sandy.

Here is a poem a friend sent me on hearing of Sandy's death.

They will not go quietly, the pets who've shared our lives,
In subtle ways they let us know their spirit still survives.
Old habits still can make us think we hear them at the door.
Or step back when we drop a tasty morsel on the floor.
Our feet still go round the place the food dish used to be.
And sometimes, coming home at night, we miss them terribly.
And although time may bring new friends and a new food dish to fill,
that one place in our hearts belongs to them... and always will.

Just in case you are interested:

Types of Meditation

Mindfulness Meditation
Mindfulness meditation emphasizes being cognizant of one's surroundings. Furthermore, practitioners aim to avoid thinking about the past and the future, and instead concentrate only on the present.

Spiritual Meditation
People who use spiritual meditation seek to receive guidance from a higher power or deity. A person does not have to subscribe to any certain religion in order to practice this meditative method. Oftentimes, people use spiritual meditation in order to uncover the answer to a specific question. It is also used to clear the mind and tap into inner wisdom.
Focused Meditation
Some people struggle with "emptying" their mind of thoughts. For these individuals, focused meditation might be a better bet. While meditating, focused meditation practitioners concentrate on a certain thought, object, sound or idea. Some even direct their focus towards their own

Mantra Meditation
Most picture /think of meditation as a fairly silent practice. In fact, mantra meditation involves loudly and repeatedly chanting a word or sound, commonly referred to as a mantra. During a mantra meditation session, the mantra itself becomes of the focus of the practitioner.
Movement Meditation
Unlike other meditative practices, those who practice movement meditation engage in smooth, graceful and repetitive motions. Rather than concentrate on certain words or items, this type of meditation requires that a person think about these movements as they meditate.

Which is the one for you?

Now That I'm Older and Wiser

-The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight, because by then your body and your fat are really good friends.

-Birthdays are good for you; the more you have, the longer you live.

-Ever notice that the people who are late are often more jollier than the people who have to wait for them.

-Some mistakes are too much fun to make only make once.

-Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened.

-Once over the hill, you pick up speed

-I love cooking with wine. Sometimes I even put it in the food.

-If not for stress I'd have no energy at all

-Everyone has a photographic memory. Some just don't have film.

-You don't stop laughing because you grow old. You grow old because you stop laughing.


Nathan S. Kline in his book "From Sad To Glad" states, "Depression might be defined as the magnified and inappropriate expression of some otherwise quite common emotional response. All people experience moments of sadness, loneliness, pessimism, and uncertainty as a natural reaction to particular circumstances. In the depressed person these feelings become all pervasive; they can be triggered by the least incident or occur without any provocation."

In most depressed individuals the depression robs them of their emotional energy to make friends; they have a flat response to situations that stimulate others. As such, chronic depression is felt not so much as overt pain but rather as the inability to experience pleasure.

In others the pain is acute and they weep openly at the slightest provocation, withdrawing deeply into themselves, becoming dull and lethargic/frightened and irritable.

Those not aware of their depression may insist their moods are the result of their job, behaviour of family members, or other circumstances. They can't see their difficulty in dealing with people is due to the depression; they must shift the blame to someone else.

As a rule only a few symptoms are necessary to make the depression diagnosis:

     Reduced enjoyment and pleasure: The one universal symptom of every depression is the loss of pleasure and joy in those things and activities, which under normal circumstances make life worth living. Oddly, the feeling of depression need not always be present, but in every depressed patient, it is the lack of enjoyment, which is the touchstone of recognizing the condition.
     Poor concentration: If you are depressed, you may have difficulty in concentrating. Perhaps you often read a newspaper or listen to a television program only to find you have not been able to retain anything of what you read, saw, or heard.
     Fatigue: You are quite likely to get tired very easily and lack the drive to get things done the way you used to.
     Insomnia: You may want to sleep a great deal-but at same time, when you go to bed you may not be able to get to sleep, or else fall asleep rapidly but awaken after only an hour or two. It is also common to awaken very early feeling exhausted, frightened, and depressed.
     Remorse: It is not unusual to feel deep regret about things in the past that you think you should have done and did not do-or the opposite, about things you did do and feel you should not have done.
     Guilt: Because of your illness there are many things you cannot do that would ordinarily be easy for you. This inability to function as well as you feel you should
is apt to produce feelings of guilt. You may feel that you are being unfair to your family, your friends, those who depend on you, and those to whom you are important.
     Indecision: One of the most common symptoms is an inability to decide about things, even the most simple matter at times.
     Financial concern: People in depressions are concerned about using up their resources. Their judgment about financial matters is often defective, and some
tend to markedly underestimate what they can afford to spend.
     Reduced sexual activity: Interest in sex and sexual performance usually declines
to a remarkably low level for the depressed patient.
     Decreased love and affection: You may feel shocked to discover that you feel little
or no love anymore for those persons amongst your friends and family who have always been extremely close to you in the past.
     General loss of interest: You may well find yourself indifferent to all sorts of people, things, and ideas that were once of great importance to you.
     Anxiety: Besides being depressed, you may be tense, anxious, or frightened. These feelings are so strong in some patients that they cover up underlying depression.
     Irritability: All sorts of trivial things may irritate you, and you may not be able to
control your annoyance and impatience.
     Suicidal thoughts: Almost everyone thinks of committing suicide at one time or another, but naturally such ideas are more frequent during a depression. Often this seems the only escape from an intolerable situation.
     Unusual thoughts and urges: Frequently there is fear of someone near and dear to you dying. Oddly enough there are also times when depressed patients have the urge to harm those near and dear to them.
     Physical changes: Changes in bowel habits are not unusual; neither is dryness of the mouth. Loss of appetite is common and sometimes results in marked loss of weight.                        Alternately, many patients find themselves plagued by all sorts of aches and pains, some of which may be new and some of which may have been present before but were seldom noticed Other physical reactions that may accompany depression include nausea, chest pains, stomach cramps, rapid breathing, sweating, coldness of the extremities, numbness, or tingling of the hands/feet-and particularly headaches or other odd feelings of pressure in the head, ears, or neck.
     Concern about dying: Because of the physical symptoms (or even without them) the patient may feel that a terrible and untreatable disease process is destroying some part of the body or brain. If medical attention has already been sought, the patient may believe that doctors failed to recognize the illness or will not tell you the truth about it.

(From Sad To Glad, Nathan S. Kline, Ballantine Books)

See next week's newsletter for the answer to the question: Is It My Fault I am Depressed