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Newsletter Vol. #98

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I'm not sure why I got on an Islamic fundamentalist bent for this newsletter-but I have!
I have never been able to stand bullies, and reading about how one group can threaten and kill just to have others follow their agenda, well it really appalls me.

Are we afraid? Seems so!

I don't pretend to know a great deal about how religion works, but in my limited understanding, don't most of the great religions deal with love, peace, tolerance, betterment of mankind? I can't help but notice, however, the blatant assault by one particular religious group on the societies of the Western world, particularly in regards to freedom of speech. Islamic fundamentalists living in the West have been allowed to hide behind the Bill of Rights which they use to defend their inflammatory behaviour and attack anybody who disagrees with their vision of the world. I cannot find anything rational or emotionally acceptable in behaviour that bullies others in the name of one's religious beliefs. By the way, doesn't that fly in the face of everything that religious beliefs stand for?

We had 9/11; Salman Rushdie and his novel, The Satanic Verses, where they placed a bounty on him because he wrote something the Islamic
fundamentalists disagreed with. Then there were the cartoons that the fundamentalists said insulted their religious leaders - no dialogue, just physical attacks on the newspapers that carried the story, closed them down and frightened most of the world's newspapers with threats so that nobody would print the cartoon story or any story connected with Islam. Then we had the Boston marathon- I just never got the point of how blowing up innocent runners and spectators furthered the Islamic cause of love, peace, etc. Oh! So it's not about love, but about power and control. As well, within the Islamic world there are fundamentalist Muslims bullying peace loving Muslims, under threat of physical harm, into not speaking out against their misguided religious practices.

I think it is necessary to respond and make clear to these fundamentalist followers of Islam, whose attempts to control parts of our society by threatening and bullying, (sometimes quite successfully), that we will not accept that behaviour! If we were to continue to accept that behaviour, we would no longer have a democracy, but rather a political system run by thugs (who hate women).

"You're never too old to learn something stupid."

What's So Great About Being Assertive?

It seems that assertive people have fewer conflicts in their dealings with others, which translates into much less stress in their lives. They get their needs met (which also means less stressing over unmet needs), and help others get their needs met as well. Having stronger, more supportive relationships virtually guarantees that, in a bind, they will have people they can count on which helps with stress management, and even leads to a healthier body.

Where do you start to become more assertive? By being honest with yourself. - Answer the following questions to see where you stand with your assertiveness:
- Do you have difficulty accepting constructive criticism?
- Do you find yourself saying 'yes' to requests that you really should be saying 'no' to, just to avoid disappointing people?
- Do you have trouble voicing a difference of opinion with others?
- Do people feel alienated by your communication style when you disagree with them?
- Do you feel attacked when someone has an opinion different from your own?
If you answered yes to several of these questions, you may benefit from learning assertiveness skills.

"Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine."

Reader Response
Greetings from Kissimmee

I figure the way 'marriage is done' has changed significantly from when I was young.

I am curious about stats. How many long term relationships today are sanctified in a church?  I would suspect many people now decide to live together and in some cases stay together.   When people live together and then part after two or twenty years they don't hit the divorce stats.            Steve

Humourous--I hope!

After getting all of Pope Francis's luggage loaded into the limo at the airport, (and he doesn't travel light), the driver notices the Pope is still standing on the curb.
"Excuse me, Your Holiness," says the driver, "Would you please take your seat so we can leave?" ''Well, to tell you the truth," says the Pope, "they never let me drive at the Vatican , and I'd really like to drive today."
"I'm sorry, Your Holiness, but I cannot let you do that. I'd lose my job! What if something should happen?" protests the driver, wishing he'd never gone to work that morning. "Who's going to tell?" asks the Pope with a smile.
Reluctantly, the driver gets in the back as the Pope climbs in behind the wheel. The driver quickly regrets his decision when, after exiting the airport, the Pontiff floors it, accelerating the limo to 205 kms. (Remember, the Pope is Argentinian and Fangio the famous racer was Argentinian.)
"Please slow down, Your Holiness," pleads the worried driver, but the Pope keeps the pedal to the metal until they hear sirens. "Oh, dear God, I'm going to lose my license -- and my job!", moans the driver. The Pope pulls over and rolls down the window as the cop approaches; but the cop takes one look at him, goes back to his motorcycle, and gets on the radio.
"I need to talk to the Chief," he says to the dispatcher. The Chief gets on the radio and the cop tells him that he's stopped a limo going 205 kph. "So bust him," says the Chief. "I don't think we want to do that. He's really important," said the cop. The Chief exclaimed, "All the more reason!'' "No, I mean really important," said the cop with a bit of persistence. The Chief then asked, "Who do you have there, the mayor?" "No, Bigger, Chief:" "A senator?" Cop: "Bigger." Chief: "The President?" Cop: "Bigger." " Well," said the Chief, "who is it?" Cop: "I think it's God!" The Chief is even more puzzled and curious, "What makes you think it's God?"
Cop: "His chauffeur is the Pope!"

"Nostalgia isn't what it used to be"

Islam- Interesting and Disturbing

Islam is not just "a religion" of faith and worship. It is a total way of life following the rules set out by Allah for all activities as specified in Sharia law: hygiene, family relations, gender relations, education, charity, economics, inheritance, and politics - all are regulated by Sharia law. There is no separation of mosque and state in Islam; a good state is defined as the manifestation of Islam in governance.
Many laws of Islam are incompatible with those of Western liberal democracies. Islam forbids freedom of speech, in that criticism of Mohammed, the Quran, Islam, or Allah is a capital offence, with accusations sometimes followed by summary execution. As well, Sharia law forbids freedom of religion. Christians and Jews must pay a heavy tax not to be executed, and signs of their religions must be minimized, with no sounds, such as bells, with no new churches or synagogues.
Furthermore, Sharia law forbids gender equality, with men given the responsibility for women, who must accept men's authority over them and obey. Women are not allowed to choose who they will marry; if they do not marry the men chosen by their fathers, they are regarded as having committed adultery, a capital offence. For adultery in marriage, a woman can be executed. In contrast, according to Sharia law, men are allowed up to four wives, whom they may divorce at will. Men are also allowed an unlimited number of mistresses, and an unlimited number of sex slaves. Sharia law also forbids freedom of sexual expression; the penalty for homosexuality being execution. Islam restricts charity; the obligatory tithe must be directed to supporting Muslims and to advancing Islam.
Under Sharia law, a Muslim may capture and ransom infidels, may convert infidels, may enslave infidels, and may kill infidels. Infidel females may be taken and held or sold as sex slaves. It is widely believed by Muslims that their duty to God requires them to spread the true faith until it is universally accepted by everyone.
The motto of the Islamic Brotherhood: "Allah is our objective, Muhammad is our leader, the Quran is our constitution, Jihad (holy war) is our venue and Shuhada (martyrdom) on behalf of Allah is our wish"
For the complete article go to: "Islam and Freedom of Religion, Culture Wars" Philip Salzman

"I used to be indecisive. Now I'm not sure"

The golf season has arrived, so I couldn't pass up a golf joke.

After her game of golf a lady player offered her caddy a ride into town. The caddy thankfully accepted, and when they arrived at her house he carried her clubs inside. The lady invited him to stay for lunch and served him a wonderful meal.

She then invited him into the bedroom. He was puzzled, but went along out of curiosity. She asked if he wanted to go to bed with her, so he did that too. Later he realized it was time to get back to the course and prepared to leave. The housewife insisted on giving him a dollar before he could go.

This was too much for the poor man, and he asked the lady, what is going on? First you feed me a delicious meal, and as if that isn't enough, you invite me to make love to you and we have a terrific time together, now you want to pay me? What IS this, anyway? So she explained proudly, well, you know Christmas is coming, and I told my husband I wanted to do something nice for my caddy that is so faithful and has helped me so much this year".

My husband said, "Screw the caddy! Give him a dollar!" The lunch was my idea.

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