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Newsletter Vol. #101 Thats How I See It!

Very proud of my friend, Frank Adamson, who just received the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Manitoba chapter of ACTRA (theatre organization) for his body of work in stage and film. So richly deserved my friend!

This is actually the beginning of the third grouping of 100 newsletters. So I guess this actually makes it newsletter #201. Jeff, (my computer friend), are you getting me straightened out on this newsletter numbering fiasco?


Re-decision Pt. 1

Stress Reduction through Re-decision

I have to tell you, I am very excited about this five part series dealing with the impact that early negative childhood messages/experiences have on our adult lives. We are driven by these unhealthy messages and if we don't become aware of them, they will direct our adult behaviours. Remember though, we can re-decide on these messages and live a fuller and healthy life.

Pt.1    Stress Reduction through Re-decision

In our society, there is little doubt there is a trend toward lifestyles that increase stress levels. Statistics indicating the increase of chronic illness and death among men and women from stress-related disorders unquestionably point out that stress is a problem, perhaps a critical problem, which must be addressed. The increased occurrence in women of such diseases as peptic ulcers, heart disease, lung cancer and high blood pressure -- long regarded as "exclusively male diseases" --suggests that over the last few years women's lead in health, and possibly in longevity, has begun to slip. This trend appears not only in the physical health dimension, but also on the mental health front where "the number of women admitted to public and private psychiatric wards since the beginning of this decade has almost doubled and the same period has seen an alarming rise in the female suicide rate." (Paneli, p. 85).
Medical authorities agree the single biggest factor underlying this trend is stress.
Numerous solutions are emerging. More people are jogging. Meditation,
yoga and other forms of relaxation training are becoming popular. Fitness
clubs are getting rich. People are searching for ways to reduce stress and
stay well.

The trend to courses designed to assist individuals to cope with stress
has developed as a response to the increased stress levels with which most
of us live. "Time Management", "Decision-Making", "Life Planning" and other
such titles frequent the offerings of available ways to improve your functioning.
The attraction of such courses is the implication that, "if I do something
differently", I can reduce the stress in my life. This approach is only
half true-it is only a partial answer to the management of stress and the
achievement of life satisfaction. Apparently "self-directed" individuals,
excited and challenged by their work, continue to "burn-out". Over time, their
effectiveness, despite their decision-making and time management skills, is
undermined by feelings of being overextended, restless, guilty, or resentful.
There is a point where being efficient with life is not the answer: To deal
with burnout, both external and internal, controls or changes are necessary.
Relief from both sources of tension requires application of two stress reduction
approaches-Skills and Decision.

References: Bob & Mary Goulding, C. Panati, Hans Selye

Pt. 2 next week


"Climate Change is simply shorthand for a whole range of its concomitants, including environmental degradation, deforestation, desertification, atmospheric carbon dioxide and methane build-up, soil erosion and nutrient loss, toxic waste accumulation, sea-level rise, fishery and coral reef decline, biodiversity shrinkage, and increasing socio-political instability and violence."   Edd Doerr


Book Excerpt

John Sarno   "The Divided Mind"

Psychosomatic disorders are when the brain induces actual physical changes in the body. Strange as it may seem, people with a conscious psychological need for symptoms tend to develop a disorder that is demonstrated through back pain, fever, or eczema. This is not a conscious decision. The purpose of a psychosomatic disorder that is found in the unconscious regions of the mind is to deliberately distract the conscious mind.

The reality is that the brain has decided that the time is ripe for a physical diversion and chooses that moment to initiate the pain, because the person will assume that it stems from an injury, not a brain-generated physical condition that caused the pain.

What are some of the most common psychosomatic disorders/conditions: gastroesophageal reflux, peptic ulcer, esophagospasm, hiatus hernia, irritable bowel syndrome, dysphasic colitis, tension headache, migraine headache, frequent urination, most cases of prostatitis and sexual dysfunction, and tinnitus (ringing in the ears).

One of the first beliefs about psychosomatic conditions and the resultant pain, was that it serves the purpose of what is called secondary gain, that is, an unconscious desire on the part of the sufferer for some kind of benefit from the symptom, such as sympathy, support, monetary gain, or release from responsibility or from arduous labour, and so forth. However, a more recent belief is that the condition serves the purpose of primary gain, that is, to prevent the conscious brain from becoming aware of unconscious feelings like rage or emotional pain.

Sarno states, anxiety, depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) are all purely emotional conditions. In other words these psychosomatic symptoms are reactions to powerful emotions in the unconscious mind that are threatening to become conscious. In terms of therapy, what this means is you must first acknowledge the unconscious emotions before you can deal with them. Simply treating anxiety or depression with medications without in-depth psychotherapy is poor practice, dangerous and not all that helpful. Taking away the symptom by the use of a drug will only give rise to another symptom, and the other symptom may be related to something serious, like cancer. Psychosomatic symptoms are meant to distract, and to protect the conscious mind from dangerous emotions, and we conclude the need for a new symptom is to guarantee that the protective mission will continue.

It is our belief that unconscious rage rather than stress is the active psychological ingredient leading to many serious disorders.


Dog For Sale - Cheap

A guy is driving around the back woods of Montana and he sees a sign in front of a broken down shanty-style house: 'Talking Dog For Sale' He rings the bell and the owner appears and tells him the dog is in the backyard.

The guy goes into the backyard and sees a nice looking Labrador retriever sitting there.

"You talk?" he asks.

"Yep," the Lab replies.

After the guy recovers from the shock of hearing a dog talk, he says, "So, what's your story?"

The Lab looks up and says, "Well, I discovered that I could talk when I was pretty young.  I wanted to help the government, so I told the CIA.  In no time at all they had me jetting from country to country, sitting in rooms with spies and world leaders, because no one figured a dog would be eavesdropping. I was one of their most valuable spies for eight years running.  But the jetting around really tired me out, and I knew I wasn't getting any younger so I decided to settle down. I signed up for a job at the airport to do some undercover security, wandering near suspicious characters and listening in. I uncovered some incredible dealings and was awarded a batch of medals. I got married, had a mess of puppies, and now I'm just retired."

The guy is amazed.  He goes back in and asks the owner what he wants for the dog. "Ten dollars," the guy says. "Ten dollars?  This dog is amazing!  Why on earth are you selling him so cheap?"

"Because he's a bullshitter!  He's never been out of the yard!"


(As you can see I am running low on good jokes-please send me your best and worst danrosin@drcounselling.com)


Reader Response

The Pope and the golf joke just made my day.   It's been a tough weekend as they seem to be lately and this was just great. Thanks for the funny.   Ray

Scott's "Reader Response" appears to display as much bias as he criticizes writer, Brian Giesbrecht for.
Perhaps he does not realize that Mr. Giesbrecht speaks from the advantage of spending many years as a judge involved directly with the referenced matters, and therefore is in a much better position than most to offer a reasonable assessment. For my money, I find him refreshingly candid and credible, particularly since his position would not be viewed by most as being "politically correct" in our current times. Kudos for having the fortitude to speak out.        Wayne

Wow, we now have a reader responding to a reader's response-great stuff, keep it coming!


To do list

If you're holidaying somewhere special this summer, drop me an e-mail (danrosin@drcounselling.com) or a brief write up after you get back and make us all feel envious.

Send this newsletter on to a friend and recommend it.

To you fathers and to all your fathers-hope you had a Happy Father's Day!

Have a great week!

 

 

 

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