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Newsletter Vol. #107 Thats How I See It!

        The biggest communication problem is:

           We don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply!

What’s on Tap:

Launch and Testimonial; Living Life on Purpose; What is a Grandparent?; Reader Response; New Medication for Depression—Exercise; Who is Dan Rosin?

I want to thank you for agreeing to help me launch my new book "Communication & Relationships" (C & R) in February. Your help will come in the form of you relaying to all all contacts on your various Internet platforms information about the book and the "Launch". I will be sending you detailed information that you can simply send on or alter as you choose to your contacts

I truly hope you find the book interesting and helpful. Please let me know what you think of "Communication & Relationships". And those of you who have read the book, would would you consider writing a brief testimonial (or a full length review if you are so inclined) about the book. Testimonials will be a huge help when the book is launched.

 Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something broken.

Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better.

Living Life on Purpose

 I remember seeing a client who talked almost exclusively about things she “used to do”. Her language was almost always in the past tense, because in the last 10-15 years she had cut herself off from life and had substituted work for a life.

This person had no quality of life, did not take care of herself, was in poor health, and could not have cared less about relationships. Nothing outside of her work had meaning for her.

She had no energy left after work, no motivation and no interest in life. She was continually experiencing a low-grade depression that wasn’t really altered by the prescription drugs she was taking.

Unfortunately, she was not unlike many people I see who are not living life on purpose. Living life on purpose requires a definite commitment to remaining conscious to your goal of a balanced lifestyle.

 We’ll be friends till we are old and senile---

then we’ll be new friends!

What is a Grandparent? (taken from papers written by a class of 8-year-olds)

 Grandparents are a lady and a man who have no little children of their own. They like other people's.

A grandfather is a man grandmother.

Grandparents don't have to do anything except be there when we come to see them. They are so old they shouldn't play hard or run. It is good if they drive us to the store and have lots of quarters for us.

When they take us for walks, they slow down past things like pretty leaves and caterpillars.

They show us and talk to us about the colour of the flowers and also why we shouldn't step on "cracks."

They don't say, "Hurry up."

Usually grandmothers are fat, but not too fat to tie your shoes.

They wear glasses and funny underwear.

They can take their teeth and gums out.

Grandparents don't have to be smart.

They have to answer questions like, "Why isn't God married?" and "How come dogs chase cats?"

When they read to us, they don't skip. They don't mind if we ask for the same story over again.

Everybody should try to have a grandmother, especially if you don't have television, because they are the only grownups who like to spend time with us.

They know we should have snack-time before bedtime and they say prayers with us every time, and kiss us even when we've acted bad.

A 6 year old was asked where his Grandma lived. "Oh," he said, "She lives at the airport, and when we want her we just go get her. Then when we're done having her visit, we take her back to the airport."

Teenagers: Tired of being harassed by your stupid parents?

Act Now!!! Move out. Get a job.

Pay your bills while you still know everything.

Reader Response

 Hi there Dr. Rosin.

I met you at the local gym one day when you were handing out books. Originally I walked past you, as I am not much of a reader. But then I felt a prompting to go back and pick up a copy of Communication & Relationships. As I began to read I recognized that even though many of the situations didn’t relate to me, I couldn’t help but think, maybe one day they would. Well, hopefully not, but isn’t it lovely to have insight on these topics now when things aren’t a problem. I began to share the book with my friend who has been in a long term challenging relationship with a man who has a brain injury and she was impressed how easy it was to relate to and understand the concepts you discuss. We now hold value in this book and will hang onto it for those times when maybe we just simply need another opinion. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge with the world.

 “No, I want to thank you!”

          In reference to last newsletter’s article on Scotch, a reader responded:

 Did you also know that the first distillery in North America to have approved “Scotch” whisky on the shelves was the Glenora Distillery on the Cabot Trail on Cape Breton Island in Nova Scotia. It has produced its Glen Breton brand since 2000.

 Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.

New Medication for Depression-Exercise

 Regular exercise may work as well as medication in improving symptoms of major depression, researchers have found.

 In a study of 202 depressed adults, investigators found that those who went through the group-based exercise therapy did as well as those treated with an antidepressant drug. A third group that performed home-based exercise also improved, though to a lesser degree.

 Importantly, the researchers found, all three groups did better than a fourth group given a placebo— an inactive pill identical to the antidepressant.

 While past studies have suggested that exercise can ease depression symptoms, criticism has been that the research failed to compare exercise with a placebo. This leaves the question as to whether the therapy, per se, was responsible for the benefit.

The new findings bolster evidence that exercise does have a real effect on depression, according to the researchers.

                                                                   Amy Norton

 I’m only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand.

 So, who is this Dan Rosin that invades your space on a weekly basis—this is who I am!

 Dan Rosin (Ph.D.) is a 50-year veteran of teaching, counselling, therapy, research and training. As either a keynote speaker or workshop facilitator, he has the ability to focus on the heart of the issue with warmth and humanness delivered in a matter-of-fact, down to earth style.

 Dan Rosin taught public school for 20 years, completed his doctorate and worked as a therapist and workshop facilitator for the Manitoba Teachers' Society (13,500 educators) for 18 years. Responsibilities included counselling, family therapy, workshop consultation and facilitation, (Stress and Wellness programs).

 Previous work experience includes: Family Counsellor at Interfaith Pastoral Centre; Counsellor at Klinic- Community Health Centre; Facilitator of "Insight" groups and family therapy - Community Mental Health Unit, Misericordia Hospital, Edmonton; Instructor at the University of Manitoba (10 years); Facilitator of Wellness Workshops at the Universities of Manitoba, Winnipeg and Brandon as well as at The National Wellness Conference (Stevens' Point, WI); Co-founder - The Manitoba Transactional Analysis Association; Founder - The Wellness Association of Manitoba (WAM) and Founder - The Planned Action for Wellness Association (PAW); Co-founder and Administrative Director of The Interlake Festival (summer theatre). He founded the “50's Project”, a group that for over a decade featured the songs of the 1950's. For the last ten years, he has sung with a jazz group called “bluelight.”

 Dan presently works as independent contractor with Blue Cross in their EAP with an emphasis on counselling/therapy with couples. He has written two books, "Finding Balance” and “Communication and Relationships”. Married, a father of two and grandfather of two, he loves walking and working out at the gym, golf, writing, animals and singing jazz.

 Have a great week! Remember you’re in charge of it.