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Newsletter Vol #115 "That's How I See It!"

Newsletter Vol. #115 "That's How I See It!"


Do it this very moment.
Don't put it
off. Don't wait.

There's no use in doing a kindness
If you do it
a day too late.

                                             Joseph Addison


What's on Tap


Thanks; Difference Between Anxiety and Fear; Personal Energy; The Best Response to a Bad Idea…; Tear Jerker (at least for me)



I want to thank you so much for agreeing to help me launch my new book, Communication & Relationships” in February. Your help will come in the form of your relaying to all the contacts on your various Internet platforms, information about the book and the "launch". I will be sending you detailed information that you can simply send on, or alter as you choose, to your contacts.

 I truly hope you find the book interesting and helpful. Please let me know what you think of “Communication & Relationships".


Those of you who have read Communication & Relationships, would you consider writing a brief testimonial (or a full length review if you are so inclined) about the book. Testimonials will help a great deal when the book is launched.



Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.



The Question: "Do you know the difference between anxiety and fear?"

"Fear is a psychological survival mechanism that boosts
energy and focus to protect you from REAL and PRESENT danger.
Anxiety, on the other hand, arises from PERCEIVED (or maybe imagined) FUTURE threat
. Most of the time, the threat never materializes, but the negative effects of anxiety do.

Worrying squelches creativity and interferes with your ability to make
bold steps forward in your life.

Anxiety makes you less productive, less creative, less present, less
."                                               Kelly Howell


When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.


Personal Energy


What is it we do to stop ourselves from feeling alive, enthusiastic and energized?

  1. 1.     We concentrate on the negative; what’s going wrong, instead of the positive.
  2. 2.     We emphasize competition that guarantees half will be unhappy.
  3. 3.     We spend time with colleagues moaning and groaning and reinforcing the negative.
  4. 4.     We procrastinate, and that is a way to de-energize oneself.
  5. 5.     We focus on “the good old days” and miss out on the “now”, and this can lead to depression and low energy.
  6. 6.     We attribute power to people who don’t really have it, or deserve it.
  7. 7.     We blame others for our troubles or we accept the blame for the misfortunes of others.
    How do we focus our energy in a more positive way and thus get energized?
  1. 1.     Knowing that we have choices frees up our energy.
  2. 2.     Setting goals and making action plans helps to focus our energy.
  3. 3.     Staying positively committed to looking for “what works, what is good” about your day/relationship/world.
  4. 4.     Reaching one’s goals by taking only one step at a time instead of biting off too much and getting discouraged.
  5. 5.     Confronting our problems directly rather than having our anger/frustration leak out,  generally toward someone not directly connected to the problem.
  6. 6.     Rewarding self when a goal is reached.
  7. 7.     Acknowledging the importance of your work.
  8. 8.     Focusing on “the here and now” is energizing. Ask yourself: What is it in your life, right now, that you are doing that you feel good about, that pleases you, challenges you, that makes others happy and glad to know you?
  9. 9.     Taking time off for recreation.
  1.   Finding someone to talk to about your issues and feelings.


Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy.


"The best response to a bad idea is a good idea."


Bad ideas beat good ones all the time. Ideas often flourish if they cater to people's greed, irrational fear,
group identity, desire to feel right and superior, or short-term self-interest.

Good ideas that require work,
g-term thinking, self-examination, or even a small amount of se
lf-sacrifice will often wither and die--or
struggle simply to stay alive.               Greta Christina


What are your thoughts about this?


Hard work pays off in the future; laziness pays off now.


I know this has made the rounds, but I can’t help sharing this story at this time of the year. I have read it three times and the tears came each time. Your turn!


Would you have made the same choice?


At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:


'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection.'


Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.


'Where is the natural order of things in my son?'


The audience was stilled by the query.


The father continued.  'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'


Then he told the following story:


Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.


I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'


Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.


In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.


In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.


In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.


Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.


At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?


Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.


However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.


The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.


The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.


As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.


The game would now be over.


The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.


Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.


Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.


Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first!


'Run to first!'


Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.


He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.


Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'


Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.


By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball; the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.


He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.


Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.


All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay!'


Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!


Shay, run to third!'


As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'


Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.


'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of  true love and humanity into this world'.


Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero, making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!


You now have two choices:

 1. Delete

 2. Forward

May your day, be a Shay Day.  


I intend to live forever... So far, so good!

My new book, “Communication And Relationships" is a self-help book written in the same style as the popular, “Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff.” The only difference between the two books that are both helpful to people is about 2 million copies. Yeah!